Be the Coach, Not the Boss


In previous posts, I wrote about how your advice habit is making everyone around you feel less empowered and less smart. Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever, a book about how to get rid of your tendency to jump in … Continue reading Be the Coach, Not the Boss

Your Picture is Worth 1,000 Words


(A version of this post appeared previously in my Jacksonville Business Journal column The Careerist.) Your LinkedIn photo takes up just a square inch or so of your profile, but it can have a big impact on how people connect with you. Knowing how others in your industry present themselves may help you stand out … Continue reading Your Picture is Worth 1,000 Words

Listen More, Talk Less


In a previous post, I explored why giving advice isn’t working for you or the people you’re trying to help.  Today’s post is designed to get you into a productive listening mode. Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever, a book … Continue reading Listen More, Talk Less

Take My Advice. On the Other Hand, Please Don’t.


You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. you can tell whether a man is wise by his questions. -Naguib Mahfouz Michael Bungay Stanier says you have an advice problem.  I have one, too.  Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You … Continue reading Take My Advice. On the Other Hand, Please Don’t.

3 Upgrades for New Graduates


Graduating from college or high school and beginning your first serious job search means you need some upgrades. Here are three improvements new graduates can spend some of their cash and time on before starting to schedule interviews. Upgrading your wardrobe is essential if you want to be taken seriously as a professional. Invest in … Continue reading 3 Upgrades for New Graduates

Advice to Women: Be the Waffle, Not the Pancake


(This post originally appeared in my Careerist column in the Jacksonville Business Journal) I just checked my calendar, and yes, it is still the 21st century. But you’d never know that by reading through the “Power-Presence-Purpose” training delivered to female employees at EY (formerly Ernst & Young.) The last time the 55-page training was delivered … Continue reading Advice to Women: Be the Waffle, Not the Pancake

5 Steps to Help you Bounce Back from a Layoff


According to the U.S. Department of Labor, approximately 3.3 million Americans applied for unemployment benefits during the last week of March this year, a new record. The global pandemic has placed the working class in impossible financial positions, with many dreading the start of any month, when their bills come due. Losing your job is … Continue reading 5 Steps to Help you Bounce Back from a Layoff

Naked at Work


No, this isn’t another “Work from Home Zoom meeting gone bad” post. It’s a post about daring to be authentic – to bring your true self to work, and letting people see who you really are. That’s the premise of Naked at Work: A Leader’s Guide to Fearless Authenticity by Danessa Knaupp. She starts out … Continue reading Naked at Work

A Fresh Start for Your Job Search


States are opening up, and companies are retooling their workforce. Some workers might not be returning after the pandemic, for health reasons or simply because their priorities have changed. You’ve probably put your traditional job search on hold during the time you spent socially distancing at home. If you’re feeling ready, it’s time to get … Continue reading A Fresh Start for Your Job Search

The Four Zones of Interpersonal Space


Social Distance is the new business buzz phrase, so I thought it was a good time to reprint this post from 2012. Right now, leaning in is not recommended, and there are experts who predict this virus will end the ancient practice of handshakes forever. What do you think? Tony Alessandra, PH.D, is the author … Continue reading The Four Zones of Interpersonal Space