Life is a process. We are a process. The universe is a process. -Anne Wilson Schaef I’m excited to announce the re-launch of this blog as Your Work, Your Way. I’ve dedicated my career to helping people think differently about theirs, and I’ll be continuing my work as an independent coach, writer, and speaker. This … Continue reading Hello World – again.
Fall is almost here, and for most of us, the change of season will be welcomed as a chance for a fresh start. Here in Florida, fall is mostly in our head, but we look forward to it anyway. Even in this crazy year, the start of school along with cooler and shorter days signals … Continue reading Create a Fresh Fall Routine
Good job! How could saying something kind be cruel? It turns out that praise has a dark side; its effects have been studied extensively in children, but I believe praise can have negative effects on adults as well. In a recent New York Times article, writer Paul Underwood says parents have been told for years … Continue reading Think Twice Before You Say “Good Job!”
(This is a reprint of a post from 2015.) I attended a national conference in 2015 and had the great pleasure of hearing Victor Hwang speak. At the time he was CEO of T2 Venture Creation, a Silicon Valley firm that builds startup companies and designs the ecosystems that foster entrepreneurial innovation. He’s also the author … Continue reading Be a Weed
Here’s another take on this weird, endless, awful year: let’s consider it a gap year. Seth Godin writes that many students are considering taking a gap year, delaying starting or continuing college until things return to normal – or as close to it as we can get. But Godin says the gap year is a … Continue reading Our National Gap Year
I recently heard about a candidate who had great qualifications for the position, but made what might have been a near-fatal mistake. She interviewed well, but she didn’t send a thank you note after the meeting. The hiring manager confessed that it almost cost her the offer. It made me think it was time for … Continue reading A Great Thank You Note
Performance = Potential – Interference In her book Naked at Work: A Leader’s Guide to Fearless Authenticity, Danessa Knaupp tells the story of Tim Gallwey, who authored The Inner Game of Tennis in the 1970s. Gallwey claimed he could teach anyone to play competitive tennis in less than an hour, and managed to prove his … Continue reading How to Get Better at Anything
In previous posts, I wrote about how your advice habit is making everyone around you feel less empowered and less smart. Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever, a book about how to get rid of your tendency to jump in … Continue reading Be the Coach, Not the Boss
(A version of this post appeared previously in my Jacksonville Business Journal column The Careerist.) Your LinkedIn photo takes up just a square inch or so of your profile, but it can have a big impact on how people connect with you. Knowing how others in your industry present themselves may help you stand out … Continue reading Your Picture is Worth 1,000 Words
In a previous post, I explored why giving advice isn’t working for you or the people you’re trying to help. Today’s post is designed to get you into a productive listening mode. Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever, a book … Continue reading Listen More, Talk Less
You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. you can tell whether a man is wise by his questions. -Naguib Mahfouz Michael Bungay Stanier says you have an advice problem. I have one, too. Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You … Continue reading Take My Advice. On the Other Hand, Please Don’t.