Be the Coach, Not the Boss


In previous posts, I wrote about how your advice habit is making everyone around you feel less empowered and less smart. Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever, a book about how to get rid of your tendency to jump in … Continue reading Be the Coach, Not the Boss

Listen More, Talk Less


In a previous post, I explored why giving advice isn’t working for you or the people you’re trying to help.  Today’s post is designed to get you into a productive listening mode. Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever, a book … Continue reading Listen More, Talk Less

Take My Advice. On the Other Hand, Please Don’t.


You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. you can tell whether a man is wise by his questions. -Naguib Mahfouz Michael Bungay Stanier says you have an advice problem.  I have one, too.  Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You … Continue reading Take My Advice. On the Other Hand, Please Don’t.

Advice to Women: Be the Waffle, Not the Pancake


(This post originally appeared in my Careerist column in the Jacksonville Business Journal) I just checked my calendar, and yes, it is still the 21st century. But you’d never know that by reading through the “Power-Presence-Purpose” training delivered to female employees at EY (formerly Ernst & Young.) The last time the 55-page training was delivered … Continue reading Advice to Women: Be the Waffle, Not the Pancake

Naked at Work


No, this isn’t another “Work from Home Zoom meeting gone bad” post. It’s a post about daring to be authentic – to bring your true self to work, and letting people see who you really are. That’s the premise of Naked at Work: A Leader’s Guide to Fearless Authenticity by Danessa Knaupp. She starts out … Continue reading Naked at Work

Feeling Overwhelmed? Try the Magic of Checklists


After weeks of working form home, people in our part of the country are about to head back to the office. The office will certainly look and feel different, and the way we behave and interact with each other will also be different. It will almost certainly be disorienting. You may also be taking on … Continue reading Feeling Overwhelmed? Try the Magic of Checklists

What is a Black Swan Event?


So the coronavirus pandemic is being referred to as a “Black Swan event.” If you’ve been wondering what that means, you’re not alone. When you understand what a Black Swan event is, you’ll be able to see its impact over the next decade or more. There’s no question that for most of us, this event … Continue reading What is a Black Swan Event?

Gratitude, Even During this Difficult Time


“Sometimes, it feels like the end of the world.” I heard this from a friend the other day, and I had no response to offer. In  the middle of this terrible health and economic crisis, it’s hard to hold on to optimism when there’s no end in sight. This is a difficult time, made more … Continue reading Gratitude, Even During this Difficult Time

The Road to Confidence Part 2: You Should Read This


This is the second in a series of posts based on Dale Carnegie’s writing and training. Find more information on his work, training, and free resources here. Read the first post here. I have a theory about how happy you are. It goes like this: count up the number of times in a day you … Continue reading The Road to Confidence Part 2: You Should Read This

Anxiety = Uncertainty x Powerlessness


Chip Conley, writing for his Wisdom Well blog, has a great idea for mastering anxiety. If you’ve ever laid awake at night, fretting over something that was going to happen (or was even vaguely possible), you’d give almost anything to make the anxiety go away.  Chip Conley presents a tool that might do just that. … Continue reading Anxiety = Uncertainty x Powerlessness