Choose Trust

“Tough people fight fire with fire. Wise people fight fire with water.”  Former Marine and FBI counterintelligence expert Robin Dreeke wrote the book on human behavior. He taught social psychology and in the practical application of the science of relationship development for the FBI, and eventually rose to direct the behavioral analysis program for the … Continue reading Choose Trust

Manage Up by Telling Your Boss What You Need

A great online post by Susan Fowler suggests that if you’re not getting what you need from your manager, it’s probably your fault. Your boss is paid to do a lot of things, but reading your mind isn’t one of them. Take the initiative when something is important to you. Fowler starts with getting rid … Continue reading Manage Up by Telling Your Boss What You Need

Advice to Women: Be the Waffle, Not the Pancake

(This post originally appeared in my Careerist column in the Jacksonville Business Journal) I just checked my calendar, and yes, it is still the 21st century. But you’d never know that by reading through the “Power-Presence-Purpose” training delivered to female employees at EY (formerly Ernst & Young.) The last time the 55-page training was delivered … Continue reading Advice to Women: Be the Waffle, Not the Pancake

Skills You Need to Build Skills

Pat Flynn, author of How to Get Better at Almost Everything, says that becoming a generalist has made him both successful and happy. He believes that generalists are more marketable, more productive, and more flexible, making them better candidates for almost any job. In a previous post, I wrote about Flynn’s concept of skill stacking, … Continue reading Skills You Need to Build Skills

My People Will Be in Touch with Your People

Like most of you, I have a job. A great one that takes up a good portion of my personal bandwidth. I also have a couple of side gigs that are challenging, enjoyable, and have the added benefit of bringing in a little extra income.

I also have another job – a complicated, sometimes stressful, and unpaid job: I’m the family administrative assistant.

Exclamation Points and the Female Brain

The exclamation point may have originated from a Latin exclamation of joy (io). According to Wikipedia, the modern exclamation point was introduced in the Middle Ages when copyists wrote the Latin word io at the end of a sentence to indicate joy. (An end of the sentence “hurray.”) Grammar manuals describe its function as “indicating strong feelings or high … Continue reading Exclamation Points and the Female Brain

Managing the Micro Manager (Part Two)

If you work for a micromanager, it’s easy to feel like giving up. After being second guessed, checked and re-checked, and getting blamed for project delays, you may want to throw in the towel. Your manager is so busy counting trees that he’s forgotten you’re even in a forest.

Is Your Message More Negative than You Think?

Murphy says “when you’re about to have a difficult conversation, or deliver some constructive feedback or even send an email when you’re slightly irritated, it’s really important to PAUSE and ANALYZE the words you’re going to say.”