Just Start. Ugly is fine.


I’m staring at a blank screen. Blank. I’m stuck on stop and I need to move to go. If you’ve ever aspired to write, you know the feeling. If you’ve ever aspired to any goal, business, personal, or health, you know the feeling. The easiest thing in the world is to stay put. Starting is … Continue reading Just Start. Ugly is fine.

Think Twice Before You Say “Good Job!”


Good job!  How could saying something kind be cruel?  It turns out that praise has a dark side; its effects have been studied extensively in children, but I believe praise can have negative effects on adults as well. In a recent New York Times article, writer Paul Underwood says parents have been told for years … Continue reading Think Twice Before You Say “Good Job!”

Five Flavors of Impostor


Valerie Young is the author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It. In a previous post, I wrote about how women are much more likely to think of themselves as impostors. Men, on the other hand, tend to think … Continue reading Five Flavors of Impostor

Think Differently to Beat Impostor Syndrome: The Perfectionist


Valerie Young is the author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It.  In a previous post, I wrote about the different versions of Impostor Syndrome. Here’s one version. The Perfectionist believes that if you’re not perfect, you’re no good … Continue reading Think Differently to Beat Impostor Syndrome: The Perfectionist

Think Differently to Beat Impostor Syndrome: The Natural Genius


People who subscribe to the Natural Genius theory of competence believe that true competence means having inherent intelligence and ability.