Social Distance is the new business buzz phrase, so I thought it was a good time to reprint this post from 2012. Right now, leaning in is not recommended, and there are experts who predict this virus will end the ancient practice of handshakes forever. What do you think? Tony Alessandra, PH.D, is the author … Continue reading The Four Zones of Interpersonal Space
One of the keys to a successful job search is networking, which can be defined as meeting people you don’t know to ask for something you don’t have. If you’re by nature a shy person, networking can be agonizing. When biologists and zoologists use the term shy to describe animals, it generally means “tends to … Continue reading Shy? Here’s How to Get Over It.
Each conversation is a dance that we discover as it unfolds, with its own rhythm, flavor, flow. The pleasure we and our partners derive from this dance will depend in no small measure on how well we improvise, moment by moment, phrase by phrase, instinct by instinct. And yes— on how well we talk!
Confession: I’m an extrovert who dislikes networking events. I like meeting new people, but I find making small talk tedious within a few minutes of arriving. Superficial chat exhausts me, and it’s rare to make a true connection at most business events or parties.
Let’s face it; after you’ve been job searching for a while, your confidence takes a beating. You may feel invisible; especially if your job search is mostly online, you may feel like no one knows you’re there. It may be tempting to go for comfort over style when you do venture out. After all, who cares what you wear to the grocery store, right?
Career transition is a time of uncertainty. You’re not sure where to look for opportunity, when you’ll have your next interview, what questions you’ll be asked, and most importantly, how long it will be before you land a great job. There’s one thing you should never be uncertain about – what it is you’re looking for.
You may think that charisma, like good looks, is something you’re born with – you either have it or you don’t. But like good looks, it can be learned and improved through practice, and the results are worth the effort.