Most of us dread conflict because we’ve decided it’s a bad thing. It’s natural to think that way, Buster Benson, author of Why Are We Yelling? The Art of Productive Disagreement says. “It’s easy to understand why we think of arguments as nuisances, like weeds. We don’t have time to deal with this crap! Having … Continue reading The Gift of Disagreement
Most of us would do almost anything to avoid conflict. From a spat with your spouse to an internet troll war, conflict feels terrible: scary, icky, even dangerous. But what if it didn’t have to be any of those things? What if conflict could be good for us – a chance to build relationships instead … Continue reading I Disagree. How Great is That?
(This is a reprint from 2017, but relevant even in the scariest year so far.) Halloween is my favorite holiday, so I’m focused on spooks, monsters, and things that go bump in the night today. Here are some monsters you might encounter in the workplace even after Halloween. Ghosting Recruiters. The term “ghosting” first appeared … Continue reading Monsters in the Workplace
(Thanks to our partner FlexJobs for this helpful resource.) A recent survey found that 65% of people said they would prefer to work at home full-time after the pandemic. and 31% would prefer a hybrid work arrangement (combo WFH and in-office). 51% of survey respondents say they have been more productive working from home during COVID-19, and 95% of … Continue reading Interested in a Permanent WFH Arrangement? FlexJobs Offers a Template for Talking with Your Boss
A global crisis no one saw coming and no one sees ending (for now) can make even the strongest of us feel out of control. Having your workforce working from home in their bunny slippers for months at a time is challenging for any manager. Pity the micromanager forced to endure a pandemic and having … Continue reading The Pandemic has been Hard on Micromanagers
Good job! How could saying something kind be cruel? It turns out that praise has a dark side; its effects have been studied extensively in children, but I believe praise can have negative effects on adults as well. In a recent New York Times article, writer Paul Underwood says parents have been told for years … Continue reading Think Twice Before You Say “Good Job!”
In previous posts, I wrote about how your advice habit is making everyone around you feel less empowered and less smart. Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever, a book about how to get rid of your tendency to jump in … Continue reading Be the Coach, Not the Boss
In a previous post, I explored why giving advice isn’t working for you or the people you’re trying to help. Today’s post is designed to get you into a productive listening mode. Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever, a book … Continue reading Listen More, Talk Less
You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. you can tell whether a man is wise by his questions. -Naguib Mahfouz Michael Bungay Stanier says you have an advice problem. I have one, too. Bungay Stanier is the author of The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You … Continue reading Take My Advice. On the Other Hand, Please Don’t.
No, this isn’t another “Work from Home Zoom meeting gone bad” post. It’s a post about daring to be authentic – to bring your true self to work, and letting people see who you really are. That’s the premise of Naked at Work: A Leader’s Guide to Fearless Authenticity by Danessa Knaupp. She starts out … Continue reading Naked at Work