You Are as Rejected as You Make up Your Mind to Be
You’re actually rejecting yourself, either by not trying for what you want or personalizing a decision that may not have anything to do with you.
You’re actually rejecting yourself, either by not trying for what you want or personalizing a decision that may not have anything to do with you.
Fear of rejection permeates our psyche in all aspects of our life. It’s scary to meet new people, ask someone out on a date, or ask for a raise. So scary, in fact, that many of us don’t ever pursue what we really want; fear of rejection can actually lock you into a life you don’t want and don’t enjoy.
Adding style and drama to your presentation may get your resume noticed faster and read more thoroughly.
We take it for granted that we must interview before being offered a job. We practice for interviews – and dread them – as if they were inquisitions, but we hardly ever stop to think about who invented this particular form of torture.
Take a lyre player: he’s relaxed when he performs alone, but put him in front of an audience, and it’s a different story, no matter how beautiful his voice or how well he plays the instrument. Why? Because he not only wants to perform well, he wants to be well received – and the latter … Continue reading Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome
If you’re in a job search, you may have the idea that you should be looking for jobs. What if, instead, you flipped the script and forgot about jobs?
Recently, Paysa asked me to share insight on career planning, including when to switch careers and asking for a raise. You can see the original post here. Can you tell us about your professional background and your interest in helping people advance in their careers? My interest in career development comes from my background as a military … Continue reading Paysa Interview
We go through life interacting with dozens of people each day without a prepared script. From “What are you hungry for tonight?” to “Give us a quick update on the project status,” you’re improvising answers and responses all the time. Practicing this skill can help you feel more confident in any situation.
One question has been the source of almost all scientific, creative, and philosophical discovery and progress since the beginning of time. And it happens to be my favorite question.
The only transition that may be scarier than a career change is starting to date again after a breakup or divorce. Both rank up there as terrifying, especially as we age. And both are scary for some of the same reasons. Unlike searching for a new home or a new lawnmower, looking for a new … Continue reading Fear Factor