Why Disagreement Feels So Yucky and What to Do about It

In a previous post, I wrote about how and why we disagree. We can disagree about what’s true, arguments that can be resolved by seeking out the facts of the matter. An argument about who contributes more to household expenses should be easily resolved by looking at bank statements and receipts. An argument about what … Continue reading Why Disagreement Feels So Yucky and What to Do about It

The Gift of Disagreement

Most of us dread conflict because we’ve decided it’s a bad thing. It’s natural to think that way, Buster Benson, author of Why Are We Yelling? The Art of Productive Disagreement says. “It’s easy to understand why we think of arguments as nuisances, like weeds. We don’t have time to deal with this crap! Having … Continue reading The Gift of Disagreement

I Disagree. How Great is That?

Most of us would do almost anything to avoid conflict. From a spat with your spouse to an internet troll war, conflict feels terrible: scary, icky, even dangerous. But what if it didn’t have to be any of those things? What if conflict could be good for us – a chance to build relationships instead … Continue reading I Disagree. How Great is That?

2020: We Should Have Seen It Coming

Note to Readers: This is one of a series of posts that offers career advice for entertainment purposes only. Please don’t take this post seriously or literally. Take only as prescribed. Your results may vary. The Lunar New Year begins February 12. In the Chinese Zodiac, 2021 will be the Year of the Ox. I’ve … Continue reading 2020: We Should Have Seen It Coming

Develop an Indifferent Attitude

“People are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of things…” Epictetus. I’ve always associated true productivity with calm focus. If you’re feeling frantic and rushed, especially when doing complex mental labor, you’re simply not going to be as effective as you could be. Here’s how to work toward achieving more … Continue reading Develop an Indifferent Attitude

Connection Over Protection

Kendra Adachi is the author of The Lazy Genius Way.  Her book is intended to help you hack your life, and decide how to spend your time without the shame of comparison or the guilt of not being good enough. Adachi says “being a Lazy Genius is not about doing things the right way but … Continue reading Connection Over Protection

You are a Lazy Genius. (Or you could be.)

I am a lazy genius. At least, I aspire to be. You should too, according to Kendra Adachi, author of The Lazy Genius Way.  Her book is intended to help you hack your life, from the house, kids and chores, to deciding how to spend your time, without the shame of comparison or the guilt … Continue reading You are a Lazy Genius. (Or you could be.)

Happiness is More Time, Not More Money

“Spending of the best part of one’s life earning money in order to enjoy questionable liberty during the least valuable part of it, reminds me of the Englishman who went to India to make a fortune first, in order that he might return to England and live the life of a poet. He should have gone up garret at once.” (Henry David Thoreau) The … Continue reading Happiness is More Time, Not More Money

Just Start. Ugly is fine.

I’m staring at a blank screen. Blank. I’m stuck on stop and I need to move to go. If you’ve ever aspired to write, you know the feeling. If you’ve ever aspired to any goal, business, personal, or health, you know the feeling. The easiest thing in the world is to stay put. Starting is … Continue reading Just Start. Ugly is fine.

Coaching Yourself

Eileen Mulligan is the author of Life Coaching: Change Your Life in Seven Days.  The book is designed to help readers reassess their lives, redefine success, and set new goals.  Mulligan says that “problems are a useful and necessary part of your development.  They can reveal things that you might not otherwise see.”  Losing your … Continue reading Coaching Yourself