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Murphy says “when you’re about to have a difficult conversation, or deliver some constructive feedback or even send an email when you’re slightly irritated, it’s really important to PAUSE and ANALYZE the words you’re going to say.”
Negotiating a job offer is one of the scariest moments in your job search, ironically, since it’s also the much hoped for culmination of your journey. Donaldson’s Wish-Want-Walk method is designed to put everyone at ease as they approach a negotiation. It’s even more effective because of the simplicity of its design.
Writing for Psychology Today, Carlin Flora says that everyone suffers from what’s commonly known as Imposter Syndrome at some point in their lives. First, though, she corrects the popular notion that it’s actually a psychological problem. “There’s no disorder, no diagnosis, no cure,” she writes. “Impostor phenomenon, or IP, [is]a term coined in the late … Continue reading When You Feel Like a Fake
Valerie Young is the author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It. In a previous post, I wrote about how many of us have a set of rules inside us that determine whether someone is truly successful (or talented … Continue reading Competence Rules
We’re training workers to do the wrong things and to do things the wrong way.
The purpose of marketing is to get your customer to know, like and trust you. So when they have a problem to solve, it’s you they will turn to for a solution.
under-earners are often vague about money issues, or ambivalent about earning high salaries. Her under earner’s quiz includes self-evaluation statements such as “I often give away my services (volunteering, working more hours than I’m actually paid)”, “It’s so hard to ask for a raise (or raise fees) that I just don’t do it,” and “Recognition and praise are more important to me than money.”
Valerie Young is the author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It. Among her lessons for (mostly) women who suffer from Impostor Syndrome is “learn to fake it.” Young spends considerable time on the subject of why men suffer … Continue reading Fake It Til You Make It
It really is funny how so many presumably intelligent, capable men exude this level of confidence while as many equally bright, competent women struggle to do the same.
I wrote in a previous post that what happens to you in life is less important than the story you tell yourself about it before or afterward. Every day, whether it’s the best or worst of your life, is made up of the same 24 hours. This, too, will pass, if you let it. But … Continue reading When Bad Things Happen, Part 2
